Episode 63: When it's Not Enough



Summary:

On this episode of the Weight Loss for Food-Lovers podcast, Molly shares about the idea of not being enough when it comes to our attitudes around food, and just life in general. When we’re trying to lose weight, many of us believe that the amount of food we’re preparing or putting onto our plates isn’t enough to satisfy us. This is called scarcity thinking, and it comes from this primal part of our brain that helped our ancestors survive when there actually wasn’t enough food. But the thing is, most of us have all that we need to survive now, especially if you’re listening to this podcast. The challenge we have to confront now is breaking this pattern of scarcity thinking to move into an abundance mindset.


Molly said she grew up believing that more was better, but as an adult, that pattern of thinking prevented her from losing weight and living the life she envisioned. Whether you think there isn’t enough food on your plate to leave you satisfied, or you believe you’re not successful, happy, or pretty enough, scarcity mindset is everywhere. The good news is, the higher part of our brain has moved on from this way of thinking, we just need to tap into it. When we tap into this part of our brain, we’re more empowered and motivated to achieve our goals, whatever they are. But we have to be careful about the thoughts we’re letting in and the opinions we’re letting guide our thinking in order to get there.


When we start looking at life and our weight loss goals from an abundance mindset, we’ll be more likely to succeed, but we have to do the work. Molly cultivated a mindset of abundance by doing two things: working on accepting where she was in the moment and deciding which thought to give more attention to—the scarcity thought, or the abundance thought. You too can change your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance. But it’s not enough to simply identity that scarcity way of thinking, you have to start thinking something new, too.


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Topics Covered

· Announcement of free 5-day challenge starting Monday, April 26th

o Sign up for How to Lose Weight for the Last Time course here

· Jumping into the idea of “when it’s not enough”

· Scarcity thinking: when we think that we’re not enough; that the food we eat isn’t enough; believing the portion of food that we’re eating isn’t enough

o Scarcity thinking comes from the belief that there is something missing from our life

· Scarcity thinking is a natural part of our human brain – it comes from our primitive brains

o The intention behind this type of thinking is to keep us alive and evolved

· We’ve evolved beyond this type of thinking, but this pattern is still present in our brains

· Now it looks like comparing ourselves to other people and thinking we’re not enough, which carries over to food

· The good news: the higher part of our brain is evolved for strategic thinking and what is best for us in the future

· Life coaching is all about engaging the higher part of your brain to reach your goals

· Why Molly believed there was never enough food

· Adding a little bit more to meals and eating really quickly

· Molly’s first signal of the scarcity mindset was the fact that she was rushing through her meals

· Deprivation comes from a thought

· Feeling deprived partially comes from this old diet mentality

· Problem with scarcity thinking is the more you believe there isn’t enough the less empowered you feel

· Being careful about what input you put in

· Stop believing your goal is impossible because that makes it harder

· Be careful how you compare yourself to other people and their success

· You know if you’re in scarcity thinking by how you react to other people’s success

· What it looks like to think abundantly

· Abundant thinking takes practice and though-work

· It’s useful to work with a coach to be objective about your own thinking

· Do you believe you have everything right now to be happy?

o Whether or not you’re happy right now is based on your thinking

· If you’re not happy now, there’s no guarantee you’ll be happy in the future when you lose weight

· Appreciating what you have right now

· It’s easier to resort to default scarcity thinking rather than an abundance mindset, but it’s not impossible

· How to cultivate abundance to be empowered to create more of what you want:

o Work on accepting where you are right now

§ Acknowledge something about your body that is serving you

o Think about what resources are available to you

· How Molly tackled her scarcity mindset:

o Believing the evidence that was in front of her

o Deciding which thought to give more attention to

· It’s not enough just to identify that old scarcity thinking, you have to start thinking something new



Key Quotes

· “That my friends, is really what life coaching is all about, engaging this higher part of your brain as much as possible in your goals.”

· “My belief was that I always wanted more, that more was better.”

· “What am I believing that’s making me rush and eat fast through my meals?”

· “Deprivation is coming from a thought. When you feel deprived it’s because of the way that you’re thinking.”

· “You get to decide what you believe, and you get to decide how you want to think about your plan for weight loss.”

· “Essentially what you decide to believe is what you create in your life.”

· “You can be happy right now if you decide to think about your circumstance in a way that makes you feel happy.”

· “If you can’t be happy about what you have right now, it’s going to be very difficult to be happy in the future.”

· “That’s the important part of creating an intentional thought: you need to believe that it’s true.”


Links & Resources

How to Lose Weight for the Last Time course: https://www.mollyzemek.com/challenge


Subscribe to Molly’s email list and request her free 6-Point Guide to Kickstarting Weight:

https://www.mollyzemek.com/welcome


Sign-up for a free discovery call at https://www.mollyzemek.com/bookings-checkout/free-discovery-call/book


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