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Episode 96: Identity Crisis


When we think of weight loss it’s often in a binary way: Success or Failure. But in this episode of Weight Loss for Food-Lovers we learn that identity also has a big role to play in our calculus. Molly shares three primary sources of “Identity Crisis” that can stem from how we’ve felt about ourselves in the past and where we are going on our weight loss journeys.

Perhaps you were told as a child that you were just too sensitive or too pushy, reactive or lacking in self-control. Have you borne a label through life that somebody influential assigned to you, but that no longer fits? It’s time to let it go! Molly wants to give you permission to release any self-limiting beliefs and she’s prepared to show you how.

This episode also helps us understand the hurdle to reimagining ourselves. It can feel overwhelming or impossible to imagine becoming our ideal. Shedding one identity in favor of another can be scary, but Molly explains how to break it down into a single step, and then another. She also provides a framework for what to do when old patterns of thinking conflict with who we are or who we want to become. Pause take notice. Ask yourself:

  • #1: What happened?

  • #2: What was I believing that led me to eat?

  • #3: What was the result I experienced in the moment (versus what I envisioned)?

  • #4: What do I want to believe moving forward?

  • #5: Who am I now?

It doesn’t matter where you are in your weight loss journey, it’s critical to keep examining your thoughts, feelings and the places inside from which they spring. That intention is foundational to authenticity and an enduring sense of fulfillment in life. It’s a core part of what Molly’s coaching is all about.

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Topics Covered

  • About weight and identity: Molly has insights to share, based on her own experience and that of her clients.

  • IDENTITY CHALLENGE #1: When we change our weight, it can be destabilizing to the identities we’ve been assigned or assigned ourselves:

  • Overly sensitive

  • Emotionally driven

  • Lazy

  • Disorganized

  • Impulsive, lacking self-control

  • Undisciplined

  • Labeling ourselves can set us up for a life dictated by self-limiting beliefs.

  • If we self-identify as something negative (such as any of the above labels) then our brains will generate thoughts and feelings accordingly. That can keep us stuck.

  • The longer we stay stuck with an identity that doesn’t serve, the more it perpetuates itself. But having had a tendency or habit in the past doesn’t pre-determine your future.

  • Moving on from labeling that does not serve requires a willingness to look honestly at ourselves, uncover what drives our thoughts and feelings. You can decide to take self-limiting beliefs and … let them go!

  • Molly shares her experience with a client who insisted she was just somebody that needed more and required more food than other people. But was it that simple and did this woman really want to continue perpetuating that thought?

  • It’s important to question what we tell ourselves, where the labels are rooted and whether they are actually categorically true. Oftentimes our primitive minds skip examples to the contrary, looking instead for negative incidents to back up the expectations we have set.

  • We may have tendencies, but fundamentally who we are has everything to do with habits. Just because you have turned to food for emotional support of some kind in the past, doesn’t mean that has to be the case going forward.

  • IDENTITY CHALLENGE #2: When we decide to reach a goal, whether it’s losing weight or changing our drinking, it can be hard to conceive of who we must become. You may have to acknowledge how you’ve labeled yourself in the past and imagine a different version – an ideal instead of a pre-conceived box.

  • Give yourself permission to understand your idea